Integrative Therapy for ADHD & Neurodivergence
Working with the whole person, not simply diagnosis
Living with ADHD or another form of neurodivergence is not only an experience of attention, organisation or executive functioning.
It can also be an experience of the body.
Some people live with an almost constant sense of internal movement — difficulty settling, switching off or coming to rest. Others may move between periods of intense activity and exhaustion, become easily overwhelmed by stimulation, or realise only quite late that they are tired, hungry, tense or approaching overload.
Emotions may arrive quickly and intensely. The mind may continue long after the body needs rest. At other times, there may be disconnection, shutdown or a feeling of being somewhere slightly removed from oneself.
Integrative therapy creates space to understand these experiences psychologically while also paying attention to what is happening within the body and nervous system.
Beyond managing symptoms
Neurodivergence is not something that needs to be cured.
However, being neurodivergent in a world that frequently expects a different way of functioning can create considerable distress.
Years of trying harder, being misunderstood, masking difficulties, feeling inconsistent, struggling to meet expectations or wondering why apparently simple things seem to require so much effort can gradually shape the way a person sees themselves.
Anxiety, low mood, perfectionism, shame, relationship difficulties and a persistent sense of not being “enough” can become woven around the original neurodivergence.
Therapy can help separate these different strands.
Rather than asking only, How can this symptom be controlled?, the work becomes more curious:
What is happening within this particular person? What has their system learned to do? What helps it organise itself — and what repeatedly pulls it away from balance?
ADHD and nervous system
For some people with ADHD, regulation is as important as attention.
There can be difficulty finding the right level of activation for what the moment requires: becoming intensely engaged and unable to stop, struggling to mobilise for something that feels uninteresting, becoming overwhelmed very quickly, or finding it difficult to come down again once the system has become activated.
This can be experienced physically as restlessness, muscular tension, agitation, fatigue, changes in breathing, internal pressure or simply the sense that the body rarely becomes completely quiet.
Integrative therapy pays attention to these shifts.
Over time, the aim is not to force the nervous system into permanent calm. A healthy system needs movement, excitement, intensity and rest.
The work is about developing greater capacity to move between different states without becoming so easily stuck within them.
Learning the language of the body
Not everybody notices what is happening inside their body in the same way.
Sometimes the first awareness of overwhelm comes only when it has already become intense. A person may recognise the thought before recognising the tension underneath it, or notice exhaustion only once they have completely run out of energy.
Part of integrative work can therefore involve becoming more familiar with the body’s quieter signals.
Where does activation begin?
What happens before overwhelm?
What does tiredness actually feel like before exhaustion arrives?
How does the body signal enough?
What feels settling, grounding or restoring?
This is not about constantly monitoring the body. It is about gradually developing a more familiar relationship with it, so that internal signals can become useful information rather than something noticed only when they become impossible to ignore.
When talking is not enough
Insight can be enormously valuable, but insight does not always change an embodied pattern.
It is possible to understand exactly why something happens and still find the body responding in the same familiar way.
This is one of the reasons my integrative work does not take place entirely through conversation.
Integrative Therapy combines psychological therapy with direct, hands-on work with the body and nervous system. During the bodywork, I use gentle, slow and rhythmical movements, working with the body rather than asking the person to change it through conscious effort. Attention may also be given to breathing, posture, muscular tension, sensation and internal states as we notice how the body responds.
The pace is slow and responsive rather than prescriptive. There is no requirement to make anything happen and no attempt to force the body into relaxation.
Instead, we become interested in how this particular system is organising itself — where it holds, where it mobilises, where it becomes depleted, and what appears to support greater regulation, ease and balance.
Sometimes this may be experienced through a change in breathing, muscular tension or restlessness; at other times through a sense of settling, greater bodily awareness or simply feeling more present.
The hands-on work is always gentle and carried out with consent. It is not separate from the psychological work. It is another way of listening to and working with the same person — particularly where something has been understood intellectually but remains present within the body’s habitual responses.
For some people, this creates access to something that has been difficult to reach through thinking alone.
Attention, emotion and the body belong together
Human beings do not function as a collection of separate systems.
Attention affects the body. The state of the body affects attention.
Emotion changes breathing, muscle tone, movement and perception. Physical exhaustion changes emotional capacity. Relationships can activate or settle the nervous system. Long periods of stress can influence how easily a person becomes overwhelmed.
Integrative therapy works with these relationships rather than treating each difficulty as an isolated symptom.
For a neurodivergent person, this can mean exploring executive difficulties and practical patterns while also becoming interested in emotional regulation, sensory experience, relationships, self-beliefs and the underlying state of the body.
The question is not simply: What is wrong?
It is also: What is this system trying to do?
Neurodivergence and life experience
Not every difficulty experienced by a neurodivergent person comes from neurodivergence.
Life still happens.
There may be childhood experiences, difficult relationships, loss, trauma, family dynamics, illness, work pressures or periods of profound change. There may also be years of criticism or misunderstanding connected with being neurodivergent.
Sometimes these experiences become difficult to distinguish from one another.
Is this ADHD?
Is this anxiety?
Is this an old protective response?
Is the nervous system overloaded?
Is something happening within a relationship?
Often there is no single answer.
Integrative therapy allows these different layers to be explored together rather than requiring everything to fit neatly beneath one label.
A different relationship with yourself
Many neurodivergent adults arrive in therapy having spent years attempting to correct themselves.
They have accumulated strategies, planners, systems, promises to try harder and explanations for why next time will be different.
Useful strategies certainly have their place.
But therapy can offer something different.
It can become a place to understand the person underneath all of those efforts — including the body’s rhythms, limits, strengths and particular ways of responding.
The aim is not to become less neurodivergent.
It is to develop a more accurate and compassionate understanding of how this particular mind and body function together, to recognise what creates unnecessary struggle, and to discover ways of living that require less continual fighting against oneself.
How I work
My approach brings together psychological and relational therapy with embodied and nervous-system work.
Sessions may explore thoughts, emotions, relationships, past experiences and present-day difficulties, while also noticing how these experiences are expressed physically.
In Integrative Therapy, this includes direct hands-on bodywork. I use gentle, slow and rhythmical movements to work with the body and nervous system alongside therapeutic conversation. The balance between talking and bodywork is responsive to the individual and what is happening within the session.
There is no fixed sequence. Some sessions may involve more talking; others may become quieter and more body-focused. The bodywork itself remains gentle, responsive and consensual throughout.
The work develops according to the person rather than asking the person to fit the therapy.
Integrative Therapy
60 or 90 minutes · Face-to-face in Brentwood and Chelmsford
For adults who want to work psychologically while also including direct hands-on work with the body and nervous system within therapy.
Talking Therapy
60 minutes · Face-to-face in Brentwood and Chelmsford, or online
For adults who prefer a talking-therapy approach while still working from an integrative understanding of neurodivergence, relationships, emotion and the wider person.
A place to begin
A diagnosis can explain a great deal.
But it can never describe an entire person.
Therapy offers an opportunity to become curious about the individual system beneath the label — how mind and body communicate, how experience has shaped it, what repeatedly creates imbalance, and what helps it find its own way towards greater steadiness.
The work is not about becoming someone different.
It is about knowing more deeply the person who is already there.
If you are unwell but cannot afford the prices listed, please let me know. I have a couple reduced price and case study places.
If you have any questions please drop me a line at info@rutagabalis.co.uk.
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Therapy locations:
📍Brentwood – Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday & Friday
📍Chelmsford – Thursday